@philipmott1
The way we see children matters.
It's like that adage, "when you're a hammer, everything looks like a nail."
It's helpful to be aware and ask yourself, "How do I really see kids?"
My answer is simple: Kids are people.
The answer to this question is that we do not think kids are people with access to rights.
They are often the only ones who believe they have rights.
That’s why kids get so mad when we infringe on their rights.
"Why is it unacceptable for my husband to have such a major say in my appearance, but it’s fine for me as a parent to dictate how my child’s body should look?"
https://happinessishereblog.com/we-need-to-talk-about-childism/
Unconditional love has nothing to do with how our children behave.
This may feel too obvious but it's worth stating.
If we don't love them, or treat them like we love them, without condition then it is OUR behavior that must change - not theirs.
I tweet because I’d like to help other parents discover what it took me years to discover, that kids are people, that anything we do that would help a relationship with an adult flourish will also help a relationship with a child flourish.